透視MPW是一個在線社區，美國商界內外的一些大咖會在這里及時分享與職場和領導力有關的問題。今天的問題是：求職失敗怎么辦？以下為云計算財會軟件公司Xero首席人才官瑞秋·鮑威爾的回答。

找工作被拒幾乎是人人都有的經歷。雖然可能令人失望，甚至遭受打擊，但也可以成為跳板，幫助我們未來找到更好的工作。

收到求職的“壞消息”以后，你應該做一件有點反常的事：致謝。請在得到面試結果后向面試官發一封郵件感謝對方。將怨恨化為感激，有助于將情緒轉向積極，進而有利于身心健康。求職方面的互動都是你編織人際關系網、改進自我宣傳、練習培養成長型思維模式的機會。你會驚訝地發現，致謝能有效地打消求職被拒導致的消極情緒。

在致謝郵件中，你應該請面試官反饋一些評價，哪些地方需要改進？面試官認為你哪方面表現得好？有時未被錄取可能只是因為另一位應聘者更適合。還有些時候，也許你可以改進一下，提高下次求職的成功率。關鍵是避免悲觀或者自我批評引起的惡性循環。要注意別被負面情緒影響，盡可能表現自己最好的一面。未來會有一些適合你的工作，你需要做的是保持樂觀向上，準備好抓住機會。

接下來，你要做一次自我測評，或許你可以問自己以下問題：

? 我做了求職的準備嗎？對應聘的公司、崗位和面試官有沒有足夠的研究？

? 我在交流中有沒有表現優勢？跟面試官談起對自己有啟發和鼓勵的事情時，最好多介紹給公司創造的價值。

? 我有沒有仔細傾聽？參加面試的時候，我們往往帶著一堆希望展示的資料數據。別忘了，讀懂面試官透露的明示暗示。

? 我問的問題合不合適？如果你的關注點和面試官不一致，沒有深入了解、解讀一些內容，你與面試官的溝通可能沒有多少實質意義。

求職被拒后請把自己想象成一位企業家。有多少企業家能一夜之間獲得成功？少之又少。在企業經營成功以前，他們往往要想很多盈利的點子，每次失敗后他們都會努力避免重蹈覆轍。你看待求職也應該這樣。

產后復工期間，我曾經向一家跨國公司遞了求職簡歷。面試期間，很明顯主管經理擔心我的經驗高于崗位需要，他不想請一個資歷過高的人。這種想法可以理解，但確實讓我失望。面試失利后我消沉了一小段時間，但還是意識到這對企業、以及我自己都是最好的結果。

有時應聘成功需要天時地利人和齊備。既要看你作為求職者的態度，也要看跟用人方是否氣味相投，你的競爭者情況，面試安排在一天之中的什么時間，甚至面試官見你時的心情。所有因素之中，你能控制的只有自己的心態。如果碰到一個固定思維模式的面試官，你沒機會和對方探討意料之外的話題，只能討論你過去做過什么，并非你能做些什么。

而如果面試官有成長型思維模式，你們可以討論其他領域，能將工作崗位的需求與自身優勢聯系起來。如今的商界瞬息萬變，沒人無所不知。只有活到老學到老，并且愿意與他人合作，才能成為最大的贏家。

找工作時都想進一家有前途的公司，愿景明確價值觀強大，而且與你自己的奮斗方向比較一致。踏上求職征途之際，請拿出耐心，做好準備，堅持不懈，還要有足夠的自知之明，這些會是你求職的利器。如果能做到，偶爾遭到拒絕不過是成功道路上小小的顛簸而已。（財富中文網）

翻譯：Pessy

審稿：夏林

The MPW Insiders Network is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for, “How do you deal with rejection when it comes to landing a job?” is written by Rachael Powell, chief people officer at Xero.

Almost everyone has applied for a job and been rejected at some point. And while it can be a disappointment or even a shock, it can also serve as a springboard to landing a better role.

When you receive the “bad news," do something counterintuitive: Give thanks. Send a follow-up note thanking the interviewer for his or her consideration. Turn any resentment into gratitude, as it will boost your positive emotions, and in turn, your well-being. Any interaction in the job search is an opportunity to network, refine your pitch, and practice developing a growth mindset. You’ll be surprised at how well giving thanks dispels any feelings of flatness or rejection.

In your note, graciously ask for feedback. What could you have done differently? What did the interviewer feel you did well? Sometimes it may be that another candidate was simply more qualified. In other cases, there may be something you can tweak to improve your next interaction. The important thing is to avoid any downward spiral of pessimism or self-criticism. You want to get back out there and project the best possible version of yourself. There will be suitable roles around the corner, and you need to be upbeat, positive, and alert to spot them.

Next, it’s time for a self-review. Here are some questions you might ask:

? Was I prepared going in? Did I do enough research on the company, the role, and the interviewer?

? Did I communicate my strengths? You’re going to best articulate the value you can bring to a company when you’re discussing things that inspire and engage you.

? Did I listen? Too often, we go into interviews with a host of data points that we want to convey. Remember to read the verbal and nonverbal cues.

? Did I ask the right questions? If you’re on a different tangent than your interviewer, and you aren’t probing or paraphrasing some of the content, then you’re unlikely to make a human connection.

Whenever you receive a rejection, think of yourself as an entrepreneur. How many entrepreneurs are overnight successes? Very few. Quite often, they go through multiple ideas before they hit payday. And with each failure, they learn and apply lessons to their next endeavor. That’s how you want to approach your job search.

I once applied for a role with a multinational company when I returned to work after having children. Throughout the interview process, it became apparent that the manager was concerned that my experience was beyond the scope of the role, as he didn’t want to hire someone overqualified. That was understandable, albeit disappointing. Although I was rejected for the job and felt deflated for a short period, I realized it was the best outcome for the business, and ultimately for me.

Sometimes the moon and stars just have to align. It can come down to your attitude, the chemistry between the parties, the competition you’re up against, the time of day the interview is scheduled, and the interviewer’s mood just before you meet. Of all these factors, the only one you can control is your own mindset. If you enter into the conversation with a fixed mindset, you will miss opportunities to explore unexpected topics, and you will have a tendency to only discuss what you have done rather than what you can do.

With a growth mindset, on the other hand, you’re going be open to exploring other areas and will be able to link your strengths to role requirements. In this fast-paced business world, no one does know it all! It’s those who are prepared to perpetually learn and collaborate who will be the most successful.

You want to be able to see a future in an organization that has a clear purpose and a strong set of values that align well with your personal profile. Patience, preparation, and tenacity sprinkled with a large dose of self-awareness are what you should arm yourself with when you begin the search. Do this, and rejection will be no more than a brief bump on the road to success.