成功之后是空虛：一位明星的心路歷程
Orianna Rosa Royle
2025-10-22
這位演員在接受《財富》雜志采訪時表示：”我三十出頭，擁有一切，但事實是，沒有任何東西能讓你滿足。”圖片來源：JC Olivera/FilmMagic—Getty Images
26歲時，昆瑙·內亞（Kunal Nayyar）憑借在《生活大爆炸》中飾演拉杰什·庫薩帕里（Rajesh Koothrappali）一角，迎來了事業突破。他迅速走紅，在該劇巔峰期每集片酬高達100萬美元，成為電視史上收入最高的演員之一。
“我記得當時點了羅蘭百悅（Laurie Perrier）桃紅香檳——成瓶成瓶地點——感覺自己像個國王，享用著極盡奢華的晚餐，每道菜都配上松露，什么最貴就點什么，”他在接受《財富》獨家專訪時回憶道。
對內亞來說，這無疑是夢想成真。他18歲時從印度移民到美國讀大學，滿懷憧憬地立志在好萊塢闖出一片天地。“我投身演藝圈并非只想創作無人問津的藝術品，”現年44歲的他身兼演員、制片人和創始人，并表示自己曾立志成為“最偉大的演員”。
然而，香檳的氣泡終會消散，掌聲也漸漸遠去，隨之而來的寂靜比成名時的喧囂更令人窒息。
“我三十出頭，就擁有了一切，”他補充道，“你以為這就能讓你滿足。你會想：等我成功了，清晨醒來時，生活就會充滿蝴蝶與彩虹?！?/p>
“但事實是，沒有什么能真正滿足你。當你意識到你以為能給你答案的東西其實并不是答案時，那種處境既悲哀又可怕，”內亞坦言。
“你會遭遇那種‘接下來該做什么'的存在危機，內心感到一片空虛?！?/p>
當夢想全部實現，如何保持動力
如今，內亞的凈資產估計達到4500萬美元。此后他在熒幕上出演了更多角色，寫了一本書，并創立了一系列企業，包括Good Karma Productions，以及最近推出的文件存儲應用IQ121。
他表示，一旦登上頂峰——尤其是在擁有隨時可以退出的財務自由后——要保持動力，首先必須學會與寂靜共處。
“‘接下來該做什么'這個問題讓我充滿焦慮和恐懼。我一生都在不斷追求、追求、再追求，可當我實現目標后，才意識到生活遠不止于此，”他解釋道。
“于是我轉向內心，去了解真實的自己；這也是我經常給別人的建議：花時間去發現真實的自己，因為余生你將與這個‘自己'共度?！?/p>
內亞領悟到，滿足感并非來自又一次試鏡、又一筆交易，甚至不是又一張百萬美元的支票：“你必須認清生命中真正重要的是什么。你必須意識到，生活不只是金錢和名聲?！?/p>
“是與所愛之人共度時光。是培養真誠坦率的關系。是與善良的人相處，還有靈性修行、冥想、傳播愛與善意，在生活中培養靜默……”
如果你有幸獲得巨額財富，內亞建議你真正去享受它。
“盡情享受吧。如果你有幸通過努力奮斗取得了某種成就，達到了某個地位，那就去享受吧，真的。這才是關鍵所在，”他補充道。
“如果你不停地取得成就、追逐、追逐、再追逐，直到某天生命走到盡頭，你最后一刻的念頭不會是'我真高興取得了這么多成就'，而會是‘我真希望多陪陪我愛的人'，或者‘我真希望為人類多做些什么'，或者‘我真的很懷念活著的這些點滴'。”
“所以無論如何，如果你有幸登上事業巔峰，就去享受吧?！?/p>
從愛彼迎到Wingstop UK，百萬富翁們一致認為成功可能令人感到空虛
并非只有內亞一人在巨大成功之后感到空虛。
在聯合創立Wingstop UK并以4億英鎊（約合5.32億美元）出售多數股權后，湯姆·格羅根（Tom Grogan）坦言，獲得財富后出人意料地感到“無聊”。
“七年來，你的全部心思都放在如何讓這家企業成功上，”格羅根告訴《財富》。
“這是你唯一思考的事。可當你真正達到目標時，反而覺得有點不真實。就像，好了，現在完成了。然后呢？金錢也未必能填補那種空虛。”
同樣，愛彼迎（Airbnb）的聯合創始人兼首席執行官布萊恩·切斯基（Brian Chesky）此前曾承認，公司的首次公開募股（IPO）——盡管讓他成為了億萬富翁——卻是他人生中“最悲傷的時期之一”。
切斯基承認，在成長過程中他“極度渴望成功”，因為他認為成功會為他帶來崇拜。加之他的父母都是社會工作者，絕不富裕，他也曾以為一大筆錢能“解決所有問題”。
但事實上，當愛彼迎估值達到1000億美元，“高中時的所有人”都知道他的成就時，他卻比以往任何時候都更加孤獨——此前他每天投入長達18小時，將所有精力都傾注在工作中。
“在山腳下，你懷揣希望，”他總結自己從堅韌的初創公司創始人到億萬富翁的旅程時說道，“但問題是，當你登上山頂時，往往發現你孤身一人，與他人隔絕?！保ㄘ敻恢形木W）
譯者：中慧言-王芳
26歲時，昆瑙·內亞（Kunal Nayyar）憑借在《生活大爆炸》中飾演拉杰什·庫薩帕里（Rajesh Koothrappali）一角，迎來了事業突破。他迅速走紅，在該劇巔峰期每集片酬高達100萬美元，成為電視史上收入最高的演員之一。
“我記得當時點了羅蘭百悅（Laurie Perrier）桃紅香檳——成瓶成瓶地點——感覺自己像個國王，享用著極盡奢華的晚餐，每道菜都配上松露，什么最貴就點什么，”他在接受《財富》獨家專訪時回憶道。
對內亞來說，這無疑是夢想成真。他18歲時從印度移民到美國讀大學，滿懷憧憬地立志在好萊塢闖出一片天地。“我投身演藝圈并非只想創作無人問津的藝術品，”現年44歲的他身兼演員、制片人和創始人，并表示自己曾立志成為“最偉大的演員”。
然而，香檳的氣泡終會消散，掌聲也漸漸遠去，隨之而來的寂靜比成名時的喧囂更令人窒息。
“我三十出頭，就擁有了一切，”他補充道，“你以為這就能讓你滿足。你會想：等我成功了，清晨醒來時，生活就會充滿蝴蝶與彩虹。”
“但事實是，沒有什么能真正滿足你。當你意識到你以為能給你答案的東西其實并不是答案時，那種處境既悲哀又可怕，”內亞坦言。
“你會遭遇那種‘接下來該做什么'的存在危機，內心感到一片空虛。”
當夢想全部實現，如何保持動力
如今，內亞的凈資產估計達到4500萬美元。此后他在熒幕上出演了更多角色，寫了一本書，并創立了一系列企業，包括Good Karma Productions，以及最近推出的文件存儲應用IQ121。
他表示，一旦登上頂峰——尤其是在擁有隨時可以退出的財務自由后——要保持動力，首先必須學會與寂靜共處。
“‘接下來該做什么'這個問題讓我充滿焦慮和恐懼。我一生都在不斷追求、追求、再追求，可當我實現目標后，才意識到生活遠不止于此，”他解釋道。
“于是我轉向內心，去了解真實的自己；這也是我經常給別人的建議：花時間去發現真實的自己，因為余生你將與這個‘自己'共度。”
內亞領悟到，滿足感并非來自又一次試鏡、又一筆交易，甚至不是又一張百萬美元的支票：“你必須認清生命中真正重要的是什么。你必須意識到，生活不只是金錢和名聲?！?/p>
“是與所愛之人共度時光。是培養真誠坦率的關系。是與善良的人相處，還有靈性修行、冥想、傳播愛與善意，在生活中培養靜默……”
如果你有幸獲得巨額財富，內亞建議你真正去享受它。
“盡情享受吧。如果你有幸通過努力奮斗取得了某種成就，達到了某個地位，那就去享受吧，真的。這才是關鍵所在，”他補充道。
“如果你不停地取得成就、追逐、追逐、再追逐，直到某天生命走到盡頭，你最后一刻的念頭不會是'我真高興取得了這么多成就'，而會是‘我真希望多陪陪我愛的人'，或者‘我真希望為人類多做些什么'，或者‘我真的很懷念活著的這些點滴'?！?/p>
“所以無論如何，如果你有幸登上事業巔峰，就去享受吧。”
從愛彼迎到Wingstop UK，百萬富翁們一致認為成功可能令人感到空虛
并非只有內亞一人在巨大成功之后感到空虛。
在聯合創立Wingstop UK并以4億英鎊（約合5.32億美元）出售多數股權后，湯姆·格羅根（Tom Grogan）坦言，獲得財富后出人意料地感到“無聊”。
“七年來，你的全部心思都放在如何讓這家企業成功上，”格羅根告訴《財富》。
“這是你唯一思考的事。可當你真正達到目標時，反而覺得有點不真實。就像，好了，現在完成了。然后呢？金錢也未必能填補那種空虛。”
同樣，愛彼迎（Airbnb）的聯合創始人兼首席執行官布萊恩·切斯基（Brian Chesky）此前曾承認，公司的首次公開募股（IPO）——盡管讓他成為了億萬富翁——卻是他人生中“最悲傷的時期之一”。
切斯基承認，在成長過程中他“極度渴望成功”，因為他認為成功會為他帶來崇拜。加之他的父母都是社會工作者，絕不富裕，他也曾以為一大筆錢能“解決所有問題”。
但事實上，當愛彼迎估值達到1000億美元，“高中時的所有人”都知道他的成就時，他卻比以往任何時候都更加孤獨——此前他每天投入長達18小時，將所有精力都傾注在工作中。
“在山腳下，你懷揣希望，”他總結自己從堅韌的初創公司創始人到億萬富翁的旅程時說道，“但問題是，當你登上山頂時，往往發現你孤身一人，與他人隔絕?！保ㄘ敻恢形木W）
譯者：中慧言-王芳
After securing his breakthrough role as Rajesh Koothrappali in The Big Bang Theory at just 26 years old, Kunal Nayyar quickly rose to fame, earning a staggering $1 million per episode at the height of the show's success and becoming one of the highest-paid actors on television ever.
“I remember ordering Laurie Perrier rosé champagne—just bottles of it—and feeling like a king, having a really lavish dinner with truffles on everything, and the most expensive, whatever it was,” he recalls in an exclusive interview with Fortune.
It was a dream come true for Nayyar, who immigrated from India to the US at 18 years old for college, with bright eyes set on making it big in Hollywood. “I didn't do it just because I wanted to create a piece of art that no one would watch,” the now 44-year-old actor, producer, and founder says, adding that he wanted to be “the greatest.”
But eventually the champagne bubbles go flat, the applause fades, and the stillness that follows can feel louder than fame.
“I was in my early 30s, and I had everything,” he adds. “You think it's going to be the thing that satisfies you. You think: When I make it, then I'll finally wake up in the morning and there'll be butterflies and rainbows.”
“But the truth is, nothing can satisfy you and that can be a sad and a scary place to be to realize the thing that was going to give you the answer is not the thing,” Nayyar admits.
“You're met with that existential crisis of what's next, and you feel empty.”
How to stay motivated when you've achieved all your dreams
Today, Nayyar has an estimated $45 million net worth. He's since starred in many more roles on our screens, written a book, and has a string of ventures to his name, including Good Karma Productions and most recently, a document storing app, IQ121.
He says staying motivated once you've reached the top—especially when you have the financial freedom to walk away—meant first learning how to live with stillness.
“My what next was met with a lot of anxiety and fear. My whole life was just spent achieving, achieving, achieving, and then when I achieved, I had to realize there's more to life than just this,” he explains.
“So I turned inward to get to know who I truly am; And that's what advice I always give people, is spend time discovering who you truly are, because that's the one you're going to live with for the rest of your life.”
Nayyar has learned that ????? doesn't come from another audition, another deal, or even another million-dollar paycheck: “You have to realize what's real in your life. You have to realize that it's not just money and fame.”
“It's spending time with people you love. It's cultivating honest and true relationships. It's spending time with good people, also spiritual practice, meditation, spreading love and kindness, cultivating silence in your life…”
And if you're ever lucky enough to have a huge windfall, Nayyar suggests trying to actually enjoy it.
“Just have fun. If you have been blessed in your life to work hard for something and you've achieved a certain position in your life, go enjoy yourself, literally. That's the point of it,” he adds.
“If you keep achieving and chasing and chasing and chasing and chasing, and one day, your time comes and it's over, and your last breath will not be, I'm so glad I achieved so much your last breath is going to be. I really wish I had spent time with people I love, or I really wish I had done more for humanity, or, I'm really going to miss this about living.”
“So no matter what, if you're lucky enough to reach the pinnacle of your career, go enjoy yourself.”
From Airbnb to Wingstop UK, millionaires agree that success can feel hollow
Nayyar isn't alone in feeling the emptiness that can follow huge success.
After cofounding Wingstop UK and selling a majority stake for ￡400 million ($532 million), Tom Grogan admitted coming into wealth was surprisingly “boring.”
“For seven years, your whole mind is occupied on making a success of this business,” Grogan told Fortune.
“It's all you think about. And then when you get there, it's just a bit surreal. It's like, Okay, it's done now. Now what? And money doesn't necessarily fill that void either.”
Likewise, Brian Chesky cofounder and CEO of Airbnb, previously admitted that his company's IPO—despite making him a billionaire—was “one of the saddest periods” of his life.
Growing up, Chesky admits he “desperately wanted to be successful” because he thought it would bring him adoration. Plus, having social worker parents who were by no standards rich, he also thought a large sum of money could “solve every problem.”
But actually, when Airbnb hit that $100 billion valuation and “everyone in high school” knew what he did, he was lonelier than ever, having poured all his energy into his work for up to 18 hours a day.
“At the bottom of the mountain, you have hope,” he concludes of his journey from scrappy start-up founder to billionaire. “But the problem is when you get to the top of the mountain, oftentimes you are at the top by yourself, disconnected.”
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